Have you ever been in a job or relationship where you’ve worked hard, hustled, tried to see things from different angels, and put enormous amounts of energy into it in an effort to move the needle only to see very little or nothing change? Most people have. I’ve certainly been in my share of those situations over the years. I love this quote by Warren Buffett, “Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.” 

After you’ve tried everything else, sometimes it’s best to just change boats.

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Helen Keller said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Boy is this statement true; be it in love, lost jobs, broken friendships, or business deals that didn’t pan out the way we had hoped. It’s hard to make the turn and face forward when pain and disappointment is holding us back to that other thing.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future….”

Looking forward and trusting that there is another door that has opened for you, or will open for you, is a little scary, but well worth it to move out of the painful past and into a hopeful and beautiful future. It’s ‘a-boat’ time we moved on!It'sA-BoatTime

Proverbs 25:19 says, “Like a bad tooth or a lame foot is reliance on the unfaithful in times of trouble.” When we decide to make changes for the better in our lives, whether it’s getting fit, getting out of debt, or making career decisions, who we talk to matters.  The Bible says seek wise counsel.  If you just talk to your friends or family who don’t have the experience, insights, or vision for what you want to do and who you want to be, you’ll get frustrated. Some of them will even tell you you’re crazy or you’ll never be able to do it.  Find people who you see are doing the things you want to do and reach out to them. Ask them to lunch, coffee, or go on a hike.  Most times they’ll be flattered and willing to help.  Read, read, read.  Read books about people who have overcome obstacles and are successful in spite of their upbringing, failures, and struggles. The stories will sink into your mind and motivate you.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is exactly what the Bible tells us not to do – rely on people who have proven to us they cannot be relied on. There are so many smart, compassionate people in this world who are working hard to make it a better, safer place. Let’s tap into those minds and build relationships. Those are the people who can actually help us achieve the vision we want.

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Map your course, not theirs.

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong.  There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right.  To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires…courage.”   –Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Ok, this may be an off the wall analogy, but I think there is some merit to it.  I was listening to an EntreLeadership podcast recently. Unfortunately, I don’t remember who was being interviewed, however they made the comment of how a lot of people go through life doing the status quo, day in and day out. Finding a job that pays the bills (maybe even barely pays the bills) and doing the same thing they don’t really like (or even dislike) for years with no effort to make a change to improve their situation. The interviewee then made the comment that perhaps that’s why zombie shows are so popular, they kind of reflect the behaviors of so many people just getting through life a little numb. Wow! That stuck with me and I wondered what would be the antidote to being a zombie.  How does one ‘stay alive in the moment’? Feel and experience new things? Get the most out of the short time we are blessed to be on this planet?  Curiosity.  I believe it’s a healthy dose of curiosity.  If you’re always exploring, learning, questioning, then life perpetually looks different.  The bad times aren’t so bad because they won’t last forever, the good times should be celebrated because they ebb and flow.  The lyrics to Gary Allan’s song Life Ain’t Always Beautiful are so true – “Life ain’t always beautiful, but it’s a beautiful ride.”  Don’t be afraid to move forward, afraid to make mistakes, or make excuses, be curious and live life out loud, in the sunshine.

This quote captures the jest of it… “Curiosity killed the cat, but where human beings are concerned, the only thing a healthy curiosity can kill is ignorance.”     – Harry Lorayne

Your network, is your net worth.  I head this phrase recently from Bob Beaudine, author of The Power of Who, and it stuck with me.  I have a finance background and was taught the math way to measure the net worth of a person. You take their total assets (home, vehicles, valuable belongings) and subtract their total liabilities (home mortgage, car loans, credit card debt, school loans, any other loans). The higher the assets than the liabilities, the higher the net worth. That is the way to measure a person’s financial net worth. However, there is another net worth too.

When I find a particularly interesting and successful person, I like to research their background.  I’m curious as to how they got to be where they are.  How much time did they put in to hone their skill and craft?  Who helped them along the way? Did they come from a healthy family upbringing, or a troubled one? What I’ve noticed is regardless as to how they were brought up, they have surrounded themselves with a lot of high energy, talented, positive people. They collaborate with these people on a regular and consistent basis and over time they’ve built trust and good friendships – a solid network.  You could say they’ve achieved a high net worth because of their network. I’m now putting more effort into building my network of trusted friends and am excited to see where it takes me. How about you?  What is your net worth?

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Happy Valentine’s Day.  Let’s all love like this.

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