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Failures in life are described in surfing terms as wipeouts.  You catch your wave, you’re cruising along, feeling confident, and things seem to be going well. Then something happens. An issue comes up with a family member, something happens at work, or you made a decision that didn’t work out the way you had planned. Often times when this happens the word failure (wipeout) comes to mind. We all have failures of some sort or another throughout our lives. If we don’t learn from them, there is a good chance we’ll repeat them. It’s natural to beat ourselves up when we make mistakes. But instead of beating ourselves up, what if we looked at them as a new skill.  Successful people will tell you they’ve failed many times. The difference is they view failures as lessons they’ve learned which helped propel them forward.

Famous surfer, Laird Hamilton, puts it best this way, “Wiping out is an under appreciated skill.”
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Ok, this may be an off the wall analogy, but I think there is some merit to it.  I was listening to an EntreLeadership podcast recently. Unfortunately, I don’t remember who was being interviewed, however they made the comment of how a lot of people go through life doing the status quo, day in and day out. Finding a job that pays the bills (maybe even barely pays the bills) and doing the same thing they don’t really like (or even dislike) for years with no effort to make a change to improve their situation. The interviewee then made the comment that perhaps that’s why zombie shows are so popular, they kind of reflect the behaviors of so many people just getting through life a little numb. Wow! That stuck with me and I wondered what would be the antidote to being a zombie.  How does one ‘stay alive in the moment’? Feel and experience new things? Get the most out of the short time we are blessed to be on this planet?  Curiosity.  I believe it’s a healthy dose of curiosity.  If you’re always exploring, learning, questioning, then life perpetually looks different.  The bad times aren’t so bad because they won’t last forever, the good times should be celebrated because they ebb and flow.  The lyrics to Gary Allan’s song Life Ain’t Always Beautiful are so true – “Life ain’t always beautiful, but it’s a beautiful ride.”  Don’t be afraid to move forward, afraid to make mistakes, or make excuses, be curious and live life out loud, in the sunshine.

This quote captures the jest of it… “Curiosity killed the cat, but where human beings are concerned, the only thing a healthy curiosity can kill is ignorance.”     – Harry Lorayne

“Times of general calamity and confusion have ever been productive of the greatest minds. The purest of ore is produced from the hottest furnace, and the brightest thunderbolt is elicited from the darkest storm.” – Charles C. Colton, Author

The stronger our intellect, the better equipped we are at accomplishing things in every area of our lives. We can do this because we have a broader understanding and awareness of situations and people. As with the other five categories in life, we don’t grow our intellect without focused effort and action, even in difficult times. Sometimes (maybe more often than not) it’s easy to feel like giving up and throwing in the towel. Life is just plain hard and sometimes when we think we’re doing good, something come at us unexpectedly out of left field to knock us back on our heels. The better we can process what is going on in those moments (emotionally and intellectually), we can grow and get stronger at dealing with life and people in general.

To strengthen my resolve to never give up and go after it every day, I get a boost of intellectual growth and confidence every time I listen to an episode of the EntreLeadership Podcast. Each podcast contains at least one interview with someone incredibly successful you may have heard of or someone who’s name you may not recognize, but is doing remarkable things to make this world a healthier, safer place. I’m currently reading the book Emotional Intelligence 2.0, by Travis Bradberry (his interview available on podcast) and Jean Greaves.  I took the emotional intelligence appraisal (free with book purchase) and turns out I have some work to do on managing my own emotions during times of frustration. If I hadn’t listened to the podcast, I may never have known about this book and very well could have missed the opportunity to grow myself in this area and build better relationships as a result.

“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.” – Zig Ziglar

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year holiday. It’s time to jump right into the new year!  We’ve been talking about building our 2017 vision board, using the special core words and underlying principles we plan to live by this year.  Remember, the overall reason for spending so much time and brain power on building a vision board, is to create something we can focus on every day, that will help make us better people tomorrow than we are today.  The more people who share this frame of mind, the more strength and power we will be as a whole to make our world a better, safer, and more beautiful place to live in now, and create a sustainable, brighter place for our children and grandchildren to live in later.

As promised, today, to kick off the new year, I’m revealing my 2017 vision board. To recap, here are my core words.

  • Essentials: Do essential things only, let the rest go – focus on tasks that move the needle, don’t let the busy things detract me.
  • Presence: Be present with everyone in everything, in good and in uncomfortable situations – I will learn more about them and they will feel heard and understood.
  • Energy: Bring energy – it brings everything up and makes life more exciting for everyone.

As I think of these words coupled together with the principles I’ve identified that I need to focus on (that I wrote down) in the six areas of my life (Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Healthy & Fit, Career, Financial Stability, Intellectual Stimulation), I selected a wide variety of images. I love each one of them. So, here it is, my 2017 Vision Board!

I sincerely hope the very best for all of you in 2017!

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We are well on our way to completing our Vision Quest for 2017.  A few weeks back we picked special, meaningful words to keep us focused on how we want to be different (better, stronger, healthier) next year.  Everyday when we say those words, our brain will keep us focused on moving in the right direction, and ultimately achieving the change we want.

Right now, if you haven’t done so already, you should be choosing pictures that your minds eye can tangibly see.  They should be pictures that draw your attention to them. Don’t be afraid to go big.  Dare to trust that God can do big things with your life. You have amazing special skills, abilities, strengths, and passions the world can use. When we all tap into them, we can make the world a better, safer place tomorrow than it is today.

This week I’m very excited to be picking my pictures. Once the pictures are selected, put them on your vision board (poster board, or digital board), along with your words.

Next week I’ll reveal my vision board.  Lets tackle 2017 and go all out with our Vision Quest!  “Nothing happens unless first a dream” – Carl Sandburg.

I’ve been away from my blogs for a while to focus on building my CPCoastal business.  You can check it out at CPCoastal.com.  I have missed blogging about setting life visions and making dreams a reality, so I’m making a commitment to blog at least once a week. My hope is that I will provide insights and inspiration to everyone who reads them. With that, since we are in November, lets dive in.

When I first was introduced to making vision boards by my friend Lori, she told me every November she goes into her lab.  She explained her ‘lab’ was code for the time she intentionally sets aside, getting away from the normal daily routines and basically shutting the world out. It’s focused time she uses to concentrate on where and who she is and where and who she wants to be.  To be clear, she’s not looking to change her personality or passions; rather, she wants to make who she is even better. She starts her lab time by thinking about words that describe the elements of what she wants to be in the coming year.  For example: Challenge (challenge everyone who asks for my time to make sure I’m not wasting time with the wrong people doing unproductive things). Breakout (breakout of thinking I must do everything perfectly, sometimes good enough is good enough).

I adopted the tradition of going into the lab every November and picking meaningful words, and writing down how that word will impact my life in a positive way. At first it takes time learning to shut off everything around me to be quiet and listen to my inner self.  Words are powerful and give our mind something to work towards.  Pick words that move and inspire you to be something better tomorrow than  you were today.

After we pull our words together, we’ll focus on creating our 2017 vision board to support those very important words. I’m going into my lab this month and will share my words with you. Let’s do this together!  raw-6-29-13

Boat names are very well thought out, and sum up life in very few words. I took this picture while paddle boarding recently in Newport Beach.  When was the last time you imagined?

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Each one of us has our own unique gifts to offer this world. God built us with a specific passion, backed up and supported by strengths and abilities that make us tick.  Have you discovered what your passion is?  If you have identified what yours is, have you worked to get skilled in it, so you can earn a good living at it?

When we can overlap the three realities of 1) What we love to do, 2) What we are good at, and 3) What we can get paid well to do, we will be in a very sweet spot.  We are born with passions for, and interests in, certain things. We are also built with basic abilities, strengths, and skills to do what we love. However, we must work to build, refine and sharpen our skills in order to do the thing we love at the highest level possible in order to attract the attention of other people who will pay us for doing that thing we love.  It is not enough to just have a passion.

I read the Book of Proverbs, in the Bible, every morning to get “readjusted” and start my day with some wisdom.  Today I read Proverbs 22:29 “Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings, he will not serve before obscure men.” 

When you develop a roadmap for your life, you’ll get to do what you love doing… for a living.  Monday mornings sure are a heck of a lot more fun that way!

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Today is January 1, 2014. Ready or not, the new year is here.

Yesterday, on New Year’s Eve, while paying for my groceries, I wished the store cashier a Happy New Year. He looked down, shook his head and said, “I hope 2014 is better than 2013.” Some years are better than others, no doubt, just ask a wine maker. But we can drive our own success to a large extent. It takes a vision, planning, focus, and perseverance of actions. I hope 2014 is a better year for that man.

I’m excited for the new year, and looking forward to doing my part to make it the best year yet. If you are looking at how to make your 2014 better than 2013, my book, Your Ultimate Life Vision, can help you get your game onYou can download it here on Amazon, for only $2.99.

Go after your dreams with gusto in 2014. YOU CAN DO IT!

Christine

 

 

Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “We succeed only as we identify in life, or in war, or in anything else, a single overriding objective, and make all other considerations bend to that one objective.”

If you ever wonder why you are not more successful in any area of your life (health & fitness, relationships, career, finances, intellectually, or spiritual) ask yourself, “What are my objective in each of these areas?”  Have you identified personal objectives?  Have you written them down?  Do you have a defined action plan of how to reach those objectives? And MOST importantly, is your behavior evidence that you are working towards the objectives?

President “Ike” Eisenhower knew what he was talking about.  We all have certain goals in our minds of what we would like our lives to be like, however we fail on the execution to get there.  Everything we do must be done with the end goal in mind.  That’s not to say we can’t have fun along the way.  But just having fun though, without an objective, is fleeting and will not yield a life of fulfillment and joy.

Playing off the old sports phrase, “I want to be like Mike”… perhaps we’re better off thinking, “I want to be like Ike”.

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