Do you think questioning what someone says or does is the same thing as you not trusting them?

Georg Christoph Lichtenberg puts it this way, “One’s first step in wisdom is to question everything – and one’s last is to come to terms with everything.”  This came to mind  a few months back when I asked a friend if he had asked his college student son, who is nearing the end of college, what he planned to do with his degree.  More specifically, did the college student have any specific jobs in mind he was targeting once he graduated (translation: what kind of job can he get to support himself). My friend responded by saying he didn’t want to pry into his son’s plans too much because that may be perceived by his son that dad did not trust him.

Questioning people whether at work, at home, at the market, or wherever, is not a bad thing, even if it feels uncomfortable. Especially when we have something at stake.  It is a prudent and wise thing to do.  Asking questions, when done in a respectful way, provides insights into the other person’s true motives and heart.  The more information we have, the less we are left to make assumptions or ‘fill in the gaps’ on our own, and subsequently act on false or inaccurate information.  There are some people who cop an attitude when they are questioned.  That should tell you something.  Worrying about someone’s negative reaction to being asked for more information when you have skin in the game, should not keep you from seeking the information you need.  When (is there a more appropriate time?) and how (what is the tone in your voice?) you ask will make a difference, so we need to be mindful of our behavior.

Proverbs 18:15 says, “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge; the ears of the wise seek it out.”  And Proverbs 18:17 says, “The first to present his case seems right, until another comes forward and questions him.”

What does all this mean?  Speak up and ask questions!  Its your life and you are entitled to information that ensures you are making well informed decisions.

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