How do you measure success?  I heard this question a couple of days ago and couldn’t stop thinking about it.  Aren’t we all striving for success in some fashion or another?  Isn’t it what drives us every day to do something or be something we’ve never been before? Or maybe for some people success is just being alive another day. Whatever it is, it’s definitely different for everyone, and we measure it by our own individual metrics.

One thing I’ve come to realize, after years of chasing the approval of people as a way of measuring success (be them corporate managers, personal friends, acquaintances, or others), is that whatever short term ‘success’ that may have seemed to be gained from their approval, fades away quickly. Leaving me disappointed, feeling like a failure, and not successful. The good thing I’ve come to realize is that if I stop looking to external sources to measure my success, and start looking internally, there are a lot of successes to celebrate and be proud of.  Successes like completing college, paying off college, having the courage to move thousands of miles away from family, friends, and everything familiar, by myself, to make a new life; saving and purchasing a home; getting out of debt; getting married; staying active and healthy; etc. The list is different for everyone, but the message is the same.  Recognizing our worth professionally and personally and the unique strengths we bring to the table is what it’s about. Success isn’t about what someone else thinks about you, it’s what you think about yourself.

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If you’re like most people (me included), when you get a great idea motivation runs high and you can’t wait to get started.  But then after a while, whether do to a hectic home life, work responsibilities, travel, etc. you wonder how will I ever make enough time to focus on this new thing.  It takes a lot of focused effort and resources to get a business off the ground. I’m constantly thinking about how to better organize my days, weeks, and months, to move things forward. Because after all, the goal is to generate income from this thing I like to do.  People often tease me because I’m very organized and love putting processes into place so that I don’t have to stop and think about what to do next in the course of my day. If I stopped to think about working out or going for a run, I’ll talk myself out of it every time.  But, when I tell myself first thing in the morning, here is what you are going to do today, a, b, and c, I’ll get it done.  For building and running my business, I keep an annual calendar broken out by quarter and month, listing all tasks I need to get done, and the deadlines by which they need to be completed. What does this do? It allows me to ‘not think’.  That sounds odd, but it’s true.  When I’ve downloaded these things on paper in advance, all have to do is execute according to the plan.  There is less clutter in my head. If you want to keep going when motivation begins to wane, put processes into place to keep you on track and moving towards your goal.

I recently heard a great Farnam Street podcast interview with Ed Latimore titled, The Secret to a Happy Life.  Ed touches on this exact topic.  He is a professional heavyweight boxer and physics major.  He talks about boxing, tough love, entropy, the worst that can happen, coaching, relationships, and a lot more.  I encourage you to take a listen.

Ed Latimore on The Secret to a Happy Life


A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.                  – Proverbs 15:30

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“He who puts up security for another will surely suffer, but whoever refuses to strike hands in pledge is safe.” – Proverbs 11:15

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“The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out.” – Proverbs 10:9

 

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While listening to Brene Brown, Researcher, Author and Public Speaker, talk about vulnerability, being brave, having courage, and being happy to just be who God made me to be, I was inspired to create this Life Satisfaction chart. On the Y axis is Financial Satisfaction, which is a basic part of our lives in order to make a living and support ourselves. It measures how financially stable we are.  Are we financially stable now, or are we moving towards being more financially stable so that we can fully support ourselves and give to others. The X axis represents our Soul Satisfaction. Soul satisfaction is how content you are with your overall lifestyle and the level of emotional peace you have.

Every day we make decisions and do things that will put us someplace on this chart. Which quadrant are you in now?  Which quadrant do you want to be in?

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In my insatiable quest for knowledge and wisdom, that I may live a life of purpose, and experience my ultimate life vision (which includes a lot of time in the Caribbean), I recently ran across the Farnam Street Blog.  I subscribed to the Farnam Street email newsletter, which is chock full of well written (short) stories, analogies, and thought provoking ideas. I highly recommend checking it out. https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/

Farnam Street’s intention is to spread an appreciation of the importance of clear thinking, lifelong learning, making good decisions and living a meaningful life. Through the use of stories, analogies and careful explorations of important ideas, many people have been inspired. When you read a post about a military tactic or the life of a historic figure, the purpose is not the narrative alone. It is about much more than that — a way of changing how people think.

 

 

Charlie Munger, Vice-Chair of Berkshire Hathaway and business partner to Warren Buffet, suggests identifying one’s own aptitudes is a key driver of success.

“You have to figure out what your own aptitudes are. If you play games where other people have the aptitudes and you don’t, you’re going to lose. And that’s as close to certain as any prediction that you can make. You have to figure out where you’ve got an edge. And you’ve got to play within your own circle of competence.”

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